Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Reflection: Survival of Women

I have decided to repost this article that I wrote some years ago because of recent events that have happened to me.  Unfortunately, I have nothing new to say on the topic.  If you have had similar issues, please feel free to share this article and hopefully, we can stop this and come together

Sticks in a bundle are unbreakable
-Kenyan (Bondei) proverb

Yes, we hear a lot among women about surviving an abusive relationship, surviving in Corporate America, surviving drug addiction, surviving a cheating mate. The list can go on and on. We can always say that men are generally in the picture when it comes to what we had to survive from. The real problem is not men but –women. We are not together in this battle for survival. Some women may say they are very much in tune with the Sisterhood Régime. I say more power to them. But there are a substantial amount of women who are very much out of tune with the Sisterhood Régime. These women are the individuals from all nationalities who call themselves being our girlfriends in our face but become our archrival when it comes to who has the better house, clothes or job. Basically, they pretend to be there for us but they have another agenda. I’m not blaming women for these actions because society has provoked this ideology.

Society and the environment in which we live in have made it tough for women to get to a level of friendship where there are respect and support. A perfect example is the reality show The Bachelor. In The Bachelor, you have about twenty women competing with one another for a single guy. All the women try to win the guy’s heart by being manipulative and bitchy. Instead, we should look at each other and say, “Girlfriend, why must we compete for the same man? Why can’t one of us just walk away?” Society and the media have fueled the fire by saying competition is good and acceptable. With this way of thinking, friendship among women suffers and becomes extinct.

Just like the wide range of cultures and ethnic groups ban together to make an unbreakable bond in our society—so should women have this collective stature. A woman who calls herself being a friend should be someone that you trust with your deepest secrets— should be the one who understands and to help you be stronger during adversities— should be the one to support you not compete with you. And if you call yourself a friend you should do likewise.

If we, women, stop and look around us—not at our own life but the lives of others—we could really learn from one another and build up the Sisterhood Régime—instead of tearing down our powerful army. Women really need to remember that—we— run this society and with the support and respect that we show one another—we— can make it stronger. Let’s stop following the attitude of, 'Me against the world,' and adapt to, 'We are all in this together.' Let’s support one another at all times to survive this crazy sometimes unfair world.

copyright 2009 by Sandra Proto

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Relfection: My Summer Vacation

Photo by Sandra Proto
How am I spending my summer?  The same as last year and the year before—Being Camp Council and Director of Camp Proto Summer Camp.

 I decided to name my Stay-At-Home Mom Summer Camp last year when I created a calendar of events. 

Last year, the calendar was packed full of events that included Coney Island, NY Aquarium, children’s shows around the Town of Hempstead, Library events (including a reading program), Tennis and Martial Arts lessons, Movie Nights, Pool/sprinkler days, as well as enrichment:  Arts & Crafts and Music.  I also had educational classes. I had every day of the week scheduled with a different activity.
Riverhead Aquarium
Photo by Sandra Proto

My older daughter loved all of this and took everything in but my little one didn’t like the academic parts (I was trying to gear her up for Kindergarten (or should I say the new 1st grade). 

Well, after this failed attempt, I decided this year not to be married to the schedule and be Head Mistress General. I have allotted more flexibility and down time.  For example:  If it rains and the tennis and/or  a swimming lesson gets cancelled instead of racking my brain in finding a project to keep the girls occupied, we decided (the girls and I)to have a pajama day and spend the day in the Toys R Us warehouse (aka:  the playroom upstairs). The girls are content with playing with their doll collection (a variety of Barbies, Princesses, and miniature doll house family members), building blocks, and kitchen set while dressing up in my fashion scarves. 

 Valley Stream State Park
Photo by Sandra Proto

But I still have some fun varied activities:  We attended the local fireworks show, had fun on Elena of the Arts (my longtime sister-friend Apryl’s houseboat) and this year—instead of going to Coney Island and the New York Aquarium.(annual tradition)—we decided to venture to the Riverhead Aquarium, take a nature walk through the Valley Stream State Park, smell some flowers at the Clark Botanical Gardens, see how brave we can all be without holding on to the railing while ice skating, go to see  Annie. We also scheduled roller skating, a day at Adventure Land Amusement Park, going back to the Prospect Park      Zoo and the New York Hall of Science.
    Clark Botanical Gardens
Photo by Sandra Proto

Whew! So far, we got through the calendar with minor schedule changes (I love Pajama Days; 0).  And I even had some room to schedule some doctor’s appointments.

Now, my greatest obstacle is to add Back to School shopping to the calendar.  

Wish me luck!

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Sandra Proto debut poem at the age of twelve was entitled, The Late Great April, giving homage to the first time it snowed in April. She wrote Late Great April as an English class assignment and her teacher was so impressed by the poem that he tried to get it published. After this experience, Sandra became a "Bedroom Poet" who composed Blackberry Beauty,Light, Compositions, and many others. Blackberry Beauty (her signature poem) was featured in SaSi's Production of Identity @ Space at 24 in 2000. Sandra has performed with the funky, folky, reggae rock band Hudson’s Hope. Her poetry is featured on VAMPIRE LESBIANS and ALL I CAN SEE IS HER EYES tracks of their demo CD. Sandra is also, a fiction writer, playwright, and an essayist.

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