Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Reflection: Survival of Women

I have decided to repost this article that I wrote some years ago because of recent events that have happened to me.  Unfortunately, I have nothing new to say on the topic.  If you have had similar issues, please feel free to share this article and hopefully, we can stop this and come together

Sticks in a bundle are unbreakable
-Kenyan (Bondei) proverb

Yes, we hear a lot among women about surviving an abusive relationship, surviving in Corporate America, surviving drug addiction, surviving a cheating mate. The list can go on and on. We can always say that men are generally in the picture when it comes to what we had to survive from. The real problem is not men but –women. We are not together in this battle for survival. Some women may say they are very much in tune with the Sisterhood Régime. I say more power to them. But there are a substantial amount of women who are very much out of tune with the Sisterhood Régime. These women are the individuals from all nationalities who call themselves being our girlfriends in our face but become our archrival when it comes to who has the better house, clothes or job. Basically, they pretend to be there for us but they have another agenda. I’m not blaming women for these actions because society has provoked this ideology.

Society and the environment in which we live in have made it tough for women to get to a level of friendship where there are respect and support. A perfect example is the reality show The Bachelor. In The Bachelor, you have about twenty women competing with one another for a single guy. All the women try to win the guy’s heart by being manipulative and bitchy. Instead, we should look at each other and say, “Girlfriend, why must we compete for the same man? Why can’t one of us just walk away?” Society and the media have fueled the fire by saying competition is good and acceptable. With this way of thinking, friendship among women suffers and becomes extinct.

Just like the wide range of cultures and ethnic groups ban together to make an unbreakable bond in our society—so should women have this collective stature. A woman who calls herself being a friend should be someone that you trust with your deepest secrets— should be the one who understands and to help you be stronger during adversities— should be the one to support you not compete with you. And if you call yourself a friend you should do likewise.

If we, women, stop and look around us—not at our own life but the lives of others—we could really learn from one another and build up the Sisterhood Régime—instead of tearing down our powerful army. Women really need to remember that—we— run this society and with the support and respect that we show one another—we— can make it stronger. Let’s stop following the attitude of, 'Me against the world,' and adapt to, 'We are all in this together.' Let’s support one another at all times to survive this crazy sometimes unfair world.

copyright 2009 by Sandra Proto

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Sandra Proto debut poem at the age of twelve was entitled, The Late Great April, giving homage to the first time it snowed in April. She wrote Late Great April as an English class assignment and her teacher was so impressed by the poem that he tried to get it published. After this experience, Sandra became a "Bedroom Poet" who composed Blackberry Beauty,Light, Compositions, and many others. Blackberry Beauty (her signature poem) was featured in SaSi's Production of Identity @ Space at 24 in 2000. Sandra has performed with the funky, folky, reggae rock band Hudson’s Hope. Her poetry is featured on VAMPIRE LESBIANS and ALL I CAN SEE IS HER EYES tracks of their demo CD. Sandra is also, a fiction writer, playwright, and an essayist.

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